posture can make you feel confident

Creating self confidence in a world that’s always changing

3 June 2024

You here a lot of talk about self confidence and how important it is for success.  But what is confidence and why does it matter? Self confidence is that elusive quality everyone wants to have.  It’s about feeling good about yourself and your abilities in life, no matter what you’re doing. It doesn’t matter if you’re giving a presentation, having an interview, meeting new people, or facing difficult experiences, self confidence helps you to successfully face up to life’s challenges.
Confidence means believing in yourself, no matter what is going on in your life.

Benefits of self belief

Confident people tend to feel happier because they recognise they have more successes. Feeling better about your abilities helps to energise and motivate you to take action to achieve the things you want.

Research conducted by Mann et al in 2004 found self confidence improved health, social lives, successful coping and mental well-being.

Confidence is not finite though.  It can ebb and flow throughout your lifetime. Everyone experiences times which knock their confidence, it’s totally normal.  Living through the after effects of Covid, a global economic crisis and war and uncertainty can all affect confidence.  As can being bullied, losing a job, difficulties at work, the end of a relationship, separation or divorce, money problems or worries about your body or health.

The answer, at such times, is to work to rebuild and develop confidence.  As a result you can learn how to approach life with self assurance again, and to enjoy situations that you may have previously found difficult.   Confidence is a good antidote to anxiety.  As you become more and more confident, your belief in your ability to cope with challenging situations increases.  As a result, anxiety tends to reduce.


New ways of coping

Living with uncertainty means finding ways to cope with situations you haven’t experienced before.  As more and more people work from home, they can end up isolated and unsure about work and other situations. So, it’s easy to see how self confidence can suffer.

Improving self confidence

The good news is that if we are lacking in confidence, there are ways to improve it. Confidence can be learnt and built upon.  Becoming more confident is something that is achievable for everyone.  Feeling confident helps us to be more satisfied with the choices we make in life.

When I work with clients who want to increase their confidence, we look at their life as a whole to find the approach that works for them. We look at their thoughts and feeling in detail to find out how they contribute to stress and anxiety.  Once we understand patterns of behaviour, we have the key to making lasting changes.  Together we develop strategies to help you to be decisive, try new experiences and stay in control when things get difficult. Using hypnotherapy, CBT and mindfulness, we work together to make the changes you want, in a way that lasts.


Client story

Take Amy (not her real name) , for instance, a 63 year old widow.  Amy’s husband had recently died and she had been diagnosed with breast cancer which was now in remission.  On top of this, she was coping with living alone for the first time and feeling isolated.

Amy’s confidence in her ability to deal with life had been affected by all this.  She was reluctant to go out or to travel to places alone.  She was constantly anxious and caught up in her own thoughts.

We worked together to improve Amy’s ability to cope and her confidence in herself.  Taking a step-by-step approach, we worked together to help Amy to face small situations she found challenging.  As her confidence began to grow she was able to face more and more situations with ease. With support from me throughout, Amy started to face more situations outside of our sessions and gradually began to feel more in control of her life again.

In her own words,

I was feeling very anxious when I first went to see Celia.  My self esteem was at an all time low and I was finding life a struggle.

Celia showed me how to stay calm under pressure.  My confidence in myself has improved and I now know how to work with my thoughts rather than against them.

I’m now feeling really positive about going forward in my life and I feel confident that I can manage on my own now.

Here are five ways to improve your self-confidence.

1. Focus on posture

It has been shown that confident posture has positive effects on our hormones. Positive posture sends images to the brain, which in turn informs the body how it feels. If you want to feel confident, you need your posture to send that message to your brain.

Simply imagine having sensations of confidence and practice feeling them in your body. Concentrate on feeling your feet on the ground, your spine erect and your body relaxed and open. Remember to smile.

Check out the benefits of body awareness for more.

posture can make you feel confident

2. Target your positive qualities

When we lack confidence, we tend to focus on the negative and think poorly about ourselves. Noticing and evaluating our positive qualities helps us to use them more.

To begin recognising your positives, start by writing them down. It’s important to focus on qualities rather than achievement, so for instance, focusing on perseverance as a quality rather than the end result of finishing a marathon. It can help to ask yourself, Are there qualities I like about myself? What did I do when I was feeling good about myself? How many challenges have I overcome? What gave me the most satisfaction? What do others like about me?

3. Take exercise

Exercise has a powerful effect on confidence. Regular exercise releases endorphins into the body. These interact with the brain to produce a pleasurable state of mind which helps you to see yourself in a more positive way. Doing this frequently will give you more energy and help you to feel motivated to act in ways that build your confidence.

4. Use your imagination

Your mind is a powerful tool you can use to imagine acting as if you are confident.

Close your eyes and relax your body completely. Stay connected with the sensation of relaxation and imagine going through the day feeling confident. Allow yourself to feel comfortably pleasant whatever you encounter and envision all the good feelings you will have.

Self hypnosis is an effective technique you can learn to use to harness the power of your imagination to improve your confidence.  Find out more about how to use self hypnosis for yourself here

5. Treat yourself well

Make it a point to treat yourself well every day. Make time to do something nice for yourself everyday. Before you go to bed each night write down how you treated yourself well during the day.

Check out more ways to improve confidence here

Would you like to make living life easier, right now? Get your free Live Life on Your Terms recording here and begin to live your life with confidence.

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